You might have to take action and even risk not being right or even not being liked. From time to time, we all experience situations that we do not like or that seem remarkable, uncomfortable, embarrassing and/or painful. These situations might often cause vulnerability. These feelings or situations can be lived with. You might not relish them, but you have survived the year experiencing them. The situation might be one area of life that is not working, so that unconscious voice inside orders you indirectly to hide the experience behind clichés, myths and points of view. All the while, you are not realizing or accepting that self-denial is what is in the driving seat. Hello Baby!
Some of these clichés might live in the following statements:
It’s none of my business.
Don’t air your dirty laundry with me.
One drink before bed is fine; granny did it for years.
One more cigarette; I’ll quit tomorrow.
I hate this job, but it pays the bills.
He does not mean to ___ me.
It’s just this one time. What can it hurt?
I’m sure he’s going to pay me back. He said he would.
Credit card debt is normal. Everybody has it.
Someone else will do it. It’s not my job anyway.
People like us __________.
Those kinds of people ____________.
A good percentage of the time, it is human to make up reasons why things are the way they are. If you don’t accept the denial of making up reasons, you create more reasons on top the first set of reasons. That is what we do. One denial brings a mountain of reasons that we automatically believe to be real. By not facing why the problem turned up in the first place, we fail to acknowledge the situation quickly. When we face our problems, we experience less pain to begin with and the problem becomes easier to resolve.
Sometimes reasons why something is not working the way they ought to is a bunch of bubble wrap. The car would not have broken down on the highway if I had taken it to the shop sooner. Now there’s a tow truck and repairs to pay for. One top of that, the triple AAA membership expired just a day or so ago. This is a perfect example of what could have been avoided had the situation been taken care of when it first came up. It would have been cheaper, saved time and if some integrity had been put in the situation might never have happened.
Ask yourself: are you willing to take steps to get past your states of denial? Are you willing to face your states and situations sooner than later instead of hiding out with it in denial? Real power exists when you face life head on, even when you do not feel like it.
Jump in, get help, clear the denial so you can breathe. You know who you are.
Take responsibility for your life, for all the things that you do and do not do. No more pretending to not notice that something is missing, not working or was not done.
Live Life Your Way,
Noreen Sumpter Life Coach
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